Over the years, in working with adults, I have been struck by the role that loneliness plays in their mental health. Loneliness is not defined by the number of friends that a person has or how much time is spent alone. Rather loneliness is defined by a longing for greater social interaction. Recent research has shown that loneliness is a contributing factor to ‘making people sicker’ whether it be physical or emotional ‘sickness’. It is now viewed as a ‘risk factor’ just as obesity, smoking and physical exercise are viewed as risk factors to our health and well- being.

There are a number of explanations as to why loneliness is so detrimental. One explanation is that it is a source of stress and stress is known to contribute to a wide range of negative health factors. A wealth of research however, also shows that a sense of being cared for and loved is crucial to our well-being. As human beings we need healthy, thriving relationships. As our society becomes more technologically dependent, it behooves us to consider how we are contributing to an increase in social isolation. As more and more of us work from home, as we increasingly communicate on-line we remove opportunities for social interaction and lose the ability to relate with others.   Our children, growing up in the world of technology, increasingly lack the social skills needed to form and maintain healthy relationships. What is our responsibility therefore not only for ourselves but also for the next generation in ensuring that we do not contribute to increased social isolation and loneliness. It is important for our people because we are social beings that to maintain social connections to stay happy and healthy.

Consider the following suggestions:

  1. Join a group –  Whether it be a group through a religious institution, reading club or sport, there are many opportunities in the community to be connected.
  2. Volunteer – This will bring you into the company of like-minded others.
  3. Participate in a learning program – There are many extension adult programs offered through institutions such as the University that are non-credited.
  4. Look into free programs offered through the Library.
  5. Keep contact with your friends – Make plans and put yourself out there. Do not isolate yourself.

Alter, Stuckler & Associates are a team of registered psychologists and a social worker that provide compassionate psychological care. We have provided service to individuals, couples and families from Thornhill, Markham, Vaughan and throughout the Greater Toronto Area for more than 30 years. Have a question for our team? Contact us today.